I’m so flattered to be nominated for the Sisterhood of the World Award by the lovely Our Rach! I’m very new to the blogging world so I’m surprised anyone would really think of me for it.
Here’s how it works: she asks ten bloggers ten questions, I answer and write my own new questions for another ten bloggers, and so on. We spread the love and discover new things!
So here we go:
1. Why did you start blogging?
Peer support honestly changed my life. Medication was a leg up. Therapy was necessary. Hospital was life saving. But meeting other Mums who struggled with the same things I did? That brought me back to my old self again. I’ve written before about the ‘me too’ phenomenon, but I really do think it is so powerful for recovery. I wanted to give some of that back.
I had to write a few things during the course of my therapy, and my clinical psychologist asked if I’d ever considered writing a book about my experiences. I did consider it, and even started it, but blogging just seemed to make so much more sense to me.
There were so many perinatal mental health blogs out there I was put off for a while, thinking I had nothing to add. But when when my husband and I started talking about having another baby, it struck me that that was something I’d read very little about, especially where psychosis was involved, so I decided to go for it.
2. What things would you take with you to a desert island and why?
Earl Gray tea
A pen and paper, to write to myself and others, whether they’d ever read it or not
My little girl’s lovey (presuming she didn’t need it!) it smells godawful but it reminds me so much of her
Slippers, jammies and a blanket (I can’t stand to be cold or uncomfortable)
The Harry Potter books
I reckon I could eke out an existence on that lot…
3. What’s your all time favourite song?
Aargh too hard! I have never been able to choose just one. I’ll go with sentimentality and say ‘Beyond the Sea’, which my husband and I danced to at our wedding.
4. What was your worst Christmas present and why?
I can’t honestly think of anything I got this year that fits that criteria. I guess I’d have to say ‘nothing’; a gift I received for about ten years running from my brother. Anything is better than nothing. (He got his act together and got us all lovely gifts this year, so it has a happy ending!)
5. Have you made any New Year’s Resolutions? If you have, what are they?
To be nicer to my mother in law. She drives me absolutely bloody crazy, but I can’t change her so what’s the point in wasting my anger and frustration on her? I’ve already seen the positive impact being nicer has had on my mood and my marriage!
It’s a secret resolution though. No one can ever know *shifty side eye*
6. What are your hopes for this year?
Quite honestly, to come out the other side with another baby and (most of) my sanity. Maybe I should have loftier aspirations, or more selfless ones, but that’s it peeps, pure and simple.
7. What’s your favourite memory?
Looking in to my daughter’s eyes for the first time. Seems a bit too obvious? Well it’s my favourite, because it’s a recovered memory. For roughly the first 18 months of her life it was overshadowed by the memory of almost bleeding to death, which was happening at the same time (though I didn’t know it then). With a lot of damned hard work, the terror subsided, and in its place came the blissful, serene memory of falling in love.
8. What’s your favourite film?
Ugh, I don’t do favourites, I change my mind too often. Yep, just spent ten minutes staring at my double book shelf full of films, still can’t choose. Sorry to be a spoilsport. I’m just grateful I can now watch films again that contain any of the following themes: time distortion, an altered sense of reality, dreaming, dying, panic, ambulances, childbirth, bleeding, babies. I still don’t think I’ll ever watch Rosemary’s Baby again though.
9. What’s your guiltiest pleasure in life?
Tea. I’m that English, and that boring.
10. In your opinion, what’s the best blog post you have ever written? Link it here.
I’ve only written five! Not many to choose from, but I think the Guest post I wrote on stigma and peer support for #PNDhour is my favourite so far. Read it for a fuller answer to question 1! I’m hoping my best is yet to come.
My nominees, on the off chance they haven’t been nominated already, are:
Tracey Robinson AKA @PPsurvivormum
23 Week Socks
Emma Jane Sasaru
Pop Tart Mum
Laura Wood AKA @mrsjellybobuk
My questions to you lovely lot are:
1. What’s your favourite kids’ book and why?
2. Who do you think is the most annoying kids’ TV character and why? (Obviously the correct answer is Peppa Pig, but you’re allowed an alternative opinion)
3. Which theme song gets stuck in your head the most?
4. What’s the first thing you do when you get up in the morning?
5. If you could say one thing to a pregnant first time mum, without the fear of offending or frightening them, what would it be?
6. What’s the funniest thing you never thought you’d hear yourself say before you were a parent?
7. We’re all human. Sometimes we lie to our kids to get them to do stuff, not do stuff, or just leave us the f*ck alone for 30 seconds. What’s the worst lie you’ve told your child?
8. What’s the most irritating thing a grandparent(/carer that’s not you) does whilst looking after your kids? (Eg asking if it’s OK as they hand them the chocolate, asking the kids questions that are intended for you, giving them a noisy shiny toy specially for grandmas house 5 mins before you & kids have to leave, etc)
9. What’s been your proudest moment as a parent? (Go on, brag, you have my permission)
10. If you could go back and talk to yourself at your lowest moment, what would you say?
And here are the rules!
1. Thank the blogger who gave you the award, and link back to their blog
2. Answer the ten questions given to you
3. Nominate a further ten bloggers for the award
4. Write ten questions for those nominees to answer
5. Display the award on your blog or post!